Pass Me The Fat-Free Cake Please!

Why is it so hard to get out of situations but so easy to get into them? We just jump into stuff so fast often forgetting about the future but only thinking of what feels right at that moment.
I told my friend Amber this weekend that I relate it to weight...it is SO easy to gain a few pounds and happens so fast but it is SO difficult to lose that extra baggage. You think things like….oh one piece of chocolate will be fine, one slice of cake won't hurt me thaaaaaat bad, sure add cheese to those fries...summer is 4 months away….but then before you know it, summer is here and so is the need to switch from the bikini to a one piece! Of course this was never your intention, you planned on losing this stuff before summer but life happens and before you know it, here you are standing in a dressing room wondering how this happened so fast but knowing something has to be done about it and understanding that you will just have to live this summer dealing with the tan lines of a one piece because the weight comes off a lot harder than it come on!

So here it goes the hard part...the having to say no to the chocolate and waiving off the dessert tray only to see the scales moving down slower than molasses! Then it finally happens, your reach your goal, you feel great and are ready to move on to the bikini but even when you have lost it, you are constantly reminded of the time when that "baggage" was there through pictures, old clothes in your closet or people telling you how great you look which means they use to think quite the opposite but just never said it!

Through my daily living and decision making, no matter how frustrated, hurt, or defeated I feel I try to always make sure that regardless of the way a situation turns out, I never regret it and make sure I learn and grow from it. Like everyone, I am dealing with the consequences of choices that I have made that did not turn out so well because I was so fast to decide on changing things when I knew in the heat of the moment I could be messing up and did it anyway.

Yes, it sucks and is not fun at all but I also know that I cannot change anything and quite honestly even if I could I wouldn’t...Sometimes it is worth gaining those extra pounds just to be certain rather than to always wonder. That is my point though – If I would have looked at the big picture and listened to those hesitations that I had, then I would probably be smiling a little more today. (we know ourselves well enough to know if those hesitations are feelings of just being scared or feelings that we know something is wrong - we just have to be sure we don’t deny this knowledge we have with ourselves and confuse the two because it feels best for the moment.)

So next time I will try to, Stop and look at the cake and decide is this short moment of satisfaction going to be worth the end result and if I think so then I’m going to go for it but if I look at that piece of cake and I hear those gut feelings telling me that I probably shouldn’t do it because I will end up wishing I would have never picked up the fork then I will skip it and wait on the next tray carrying the low calorie cake that comes with less hesitations and consequences while realizing that I am not missing out but just holding out!

Of course skipping the cake is the hard part and does not grant us instant satisfaction BUT be sure that however long it is down the road once that satisfaction does come (and it will) you look back and remember all the forks you put down, it was not easy but you are now happy and even better it is a happy that lasts!

Not knowing the future and wanting to always wanting instant gratification makes this so hard to do but I am learning!

Choosing, Learning, and Growing!!!

xoxo,
Faith