Eeeek!!! Where do I even begin?! My last post was January 8, 2013 and I promised myself I would not let my blog sit for over a year without any posts, so here I am!!! Don't judge - It has not been a year yet! :) Seeing as how it is a new year, I think I will make a resolution that I have no more than a month between each post this year. In addition to the present, I also have the last 365 days to write about so you should be reading more from me since I definitely have plenty to talk about!!
To get things started, I am going to share an idea that I came up with this morning!
Social Media is a friend of mine, anyone who knows me, knows that! I post on Instagram and Facebook as if it were my job!! I often hear people say things like, "I don't need to post every minute of my life for it to be real...etc" and while I do agree I also think that there is another way to look at it. We have all wanted someone to hear a song. When I finally have that persons attention for three minutes to listen to the song, I talk the whole time; "did you hear that part?", "Listen to this next verse!", "Is that part true or what?" and so on! (I am even worse at this with a movie haha) Anyway, my point is, when you truly enjoy something; a song, movie, food or moments then there is nothing wrong with wanting to share those times. However, I know I can be guilty of posting and never looking back at it so I decided to create a new hashtag, #whatiloveabout2015today
How it works: At the end of every day I am going to reflect back on my post throughout the day and add the hashtag to my favorite moment of the day. Not only do I get to smile about that moment again right then but how exciting will it be this time next year when I click on #whatiloveabout2015today and see those moments again? Join in on the fun if you want!!! I would love nothing more than to see your favorite post of the day too!
No matter how tough some days might be, we have to be able to find at least one #whatiloveabouttoday2015 moment in each day to get to the next!
xoxo,
Faith
Background
1.02.2015
1.08.2014
A Gentle Reminder...
Goodness gracious! I know we all have our own bit of "drama" but it amazes me how some share so much of it with the social media world. My mama always told me, 'whatever people are doing in the open they are doing way more behind closed doors' - this is probably why I a still act like a 5 year old when a boy tries to hold my hand in public haha!
Yes, this is a repeat post that I originally posted this in 2010 but after seeing a few of my friends posts on Facebook recently, I think that a reminder is good for us all every now and then.
I hope that those of you who allow your significant other to "disrespect" you (in my opinion) will print this out and post it somewhere so you both are reminded daily. Yes, this is geared towards respect for females but I know that we women also have our responsibilities as well - one of the first is for ladies who do have men that are respectful to....Remember to appreciate it and not to expect it - be sweet ladies and remember your worth - you set the price so don't be a clearance item!
Enjoy!
I honestly believe the South’s male population has forgotten what a true gentleman signifies, I can’t necessarily blame them. Perhaps it’s the wave of feminism sweeping the nation that has so wrongly transformed our men. After all, why would a man open a door for a woman who constantly declares that she’s strong enough, capable enough, and independent enough to do it on her own? Or, perhaps acting in a gentleman-like manner isn’t the “masculine” way to behave in today’s midst of rebels, outlaws, and “bad boys” that women so dearly crave. So guys, believe it or not, I truly sympathize on your behalf. However, let that not be an excuse. If you expect to find a truly charming, intelligent, and graceful southern belle to stand by your side through thick and thin, you’re going to have to step it up. It’s only fair. So with that in mind, let’s get started.
According to Southern Byways and eHow, a true southern gentleman should do as follows:
1. Open doors. This one should be a given to any man who was raised right. Yes, women are perfectly capable of opening doors for themselves, but it shows a sense of respect that every woman should appreciate.
2. Carry heavy things. Again, women are not porcelain antiques, but they should be treated as so.
3. Mean it. Unfortunate for you, women have a way of detecting insincerity from a mile away. So don’t say something unless you mean it, don’t act in one way if you don’t mean it, and surely don’t make a promise if you don’t mean it. Nobody has time for childish games.
4. Live your beliefs. Stand up for what you believe in and never back down (don’t confuse this with stubbornness). More importantly, allow your actions and way of life speak for itself. Anyone who knows you should know what you believe in, whether you’ve told them or not. Remember, actions speak so much louder than words.
5. Do unto others. After all, it’s the golden rule. If you wouldn’t wish it upon yourself, don’t dish it upon others.
6. Smile. Nothing says “hello” like those pearly whites.
7. Be responsible. You’ve outgrown those diapers, so it’s important to act like it. You shouldn’t be babysat, looked after, or watched. Just be responsible by paying your bills, doing what’s right, and getting your work done.
8. Expect resistance. Especially from any true southern belle. If it’s worth having, it won’t come easy.
9. Say “Please” and “Thank you.” Anyone with manners knows the importance of this one.
10. Compliment women. Southern gentlemen aren’t shy about flattering women, nor do they hesitate to shower them with compliments. If you think her eyes are pretty, tell her. If she doesn’t appreciate it, move on to the next one. She wasn’t worth your time anyway.
11. Respect your elders. This requires a sincere use of “Ma’am” and “Sir,” unless told otherwise.
12. Be polite. Contrary to popular belief, ladies don’t like “bad boys” who treat them badly – only insecure girls do, and it’s important to know the difference. Being anything less doesn’t get you anywhere other than someone’s bad side. ( The Southern Advantage gives an excellent example of true southern politeness: If Donald Trump was from the South, he’d say “you’re fired, but bless your heart, you’ve tried.”)
13. Offer your coat. Especially if you’re just getting to know a woman. You can offer your arm, but only after you’ve reached a truly comfortable level. This is not the time to make any moves, so don’t even think about it.
14. Pick her up. But don’t ever be too insistent, as it may come off desperate. If she wants to meet you at the restaurant on the first date, let her. She’s only ensuring her safety and should be allowed to do so. However, never fail to offer.
15. Allow her to order first. Take care of her needs first, or at least offer.
16. Dress the part. When in public, always be presentable (yes, this means you should know how to tie a tie). Women love to follow the old saying, “Look your best, but more importantly, hang your arm on someone who looks his best too.” So make it easy for her. After all, every woman loves well dressed gents.
17. Learn how to speak when with a lady. Although she may like to get down and dirty, she’s not “one of the guys,” so watch the language and treat her with respect.
18. Flirt. This may sound odd, but southern gentleman are avidly flirtatious. However this is not to encourage any vulgar or sexual comments. But let’s face it – southern gentleman flirt with most women they come across – whether the old lady down the street, the waitress at the diner, or his girlfriend/wife. They simply know how to make women feel good and enjoy doing it.
19. Remember chivalry. Contrary to popular belief, it truly does exist. Give up your seat for a woman (not just the elderly), stand when a woman enters the room, always walk on the outside of the street, always pull out her chair, and bring her flowers.
20. Always defend a lady’s honor. Never allow a man at the bar to speak to her in an inappropriate manner, and offer to walk her to her car. Remember, a woman will always admire a man who can protect her.
21. Be a man of your word. As eHow so graciously puts it, “a Southern gentleman is a man of his word. He is faithful to his wife, faithful to his church (if he is religiously inclined), unfailingly honest, and lives by a code of nobility. He is a genuine man in a world full of posers.”
Thank you eHow, I couldn’t have said it better myself. So gentlemen, do me a favor and restore the chivalry which was once so prominent across the southlands.
By studying the previously listed ways of becoming a southern gentleman, acquiring the essential attire, and complimenting like crazy, you’ll be well on your way to becoming the next southern stud. But I must warn you- southern women have a sense of mystery that can make any pursuit challenging. Although well spoken and mild-mannered, their intellect and sassiness can leave you wondering. Luckily, today’s social media has the ability to alleviate some of your worrying woes as personal statuses plaster the Internet. Filled with daily activities, heartbreak stories, and personal insight, you may be able to decode her true emotions from a quick glance of her online status.
(Southern Charm 4/27/10 Blog)
xoxo,
Faith
Yes, this is a repeat post that I originally posted this in 2010 but after seeing a few of my friends posts on Facebook recently, I think that a reminder is good for us all every now and then.
I hope that those of you who allow your significant other to "disrespect" you (in my opinion) will print this out and post it somewhere so you both are reminded daily. Yes, this is geared towards respect for females but I know that we women also have our responsibilities as well - one of the first is for ladies who do have men that are respectful to....Remember to appreciate it and not to expect it - be sweet ladies and remember your worth - you set the price so don't be a clearance item!
Enjoy!
I honestly believe the South’s male population has forgotten what a true gentleman signifies, I can’t necessarily blame them. Perhaps it’s the wave of feminism sweeping the nation that has so wrongly transformed our men. After all, why would a man open a door for a woman who constantly declares that she’s strong enough, capable enough, and independent enough to do it on her own? Or, perhaps acting in a gentleman-like manner isn’t the “masculine” way to behave in today’s midst of rebels, outlaws, and “bad boys” that women so dearly crave. So guys, believe it or not, I truly sympathize on your behalf. However, let that not be an excuse. If you expect to find a truly charming, intelligent, and graceful southern belle to stand by your side through thick and thin, you’re going to have to step it up. It’s only fair. So with that in mind, let’s get started.
According to Southern Byways and eHow, a true southern gentleman should do as follows:
1. Open doors. This one should be a given to any man who was raised right. Yes, women are perfectly capable of opening doors for themselves, but it shows a sense of respect that every woman should appreciate.
2. Carry heavy things. Again, women are not porcelain antiques, but they should be treated as so.
3. Mean it. Unfortunate for you, women have a way of detecting insincerity from a mile away. So don’t say something unless you mean it, don’t act in one way if you don’t mean it, and surely don’t make a promise if you don’t mean it. Nobody has time for childish games.
4. Live your beliefs. Stand up for what you believe in and never back down (don’t confuse this with stubbornness). More importantly, allow your actions and way of life speak for itself. Anyone who knows you should know what you believe in, whether you’ve told them or not. Remember, actions speak so much louder than words.
5. Do unto others. After all, it’s the golden rule. If you wouldn’t wish it upon yourself, don’t dish it upon others.
6. Smile. Nothing says “hello” like those pearly whites.
7. Be responsible. You’ve outgrown those diapers, so it’s important to act like it. You shouldn’t be babysat, looked after, or watched. Just be responsible by paying your bills, doing what’s right, and getting your work done.
8. Expect resistance. Especially from any true southern belle. If it’s worth having, it won’t come easy.
9. Say “Please” and “Thank you.” Anyone with manners knows the importance of this one.
10. Compliment women. Southern gentlemen aren’t shy about flattering women, nor do they hesitate to shower them with compliments. If you think her eyes are pretty, tell her. If she doesn’t appreciate it, move on to the next one. She wasn’t worth your time anyway.
11. Respect your elders. This requires a sincere use of “Ma’am” and “Sir,” unless told otherwise.
12. Be polite. Contrary to popular belief, ladies don’t like “bad boys” who treat them badly – only insecure girls do, and it’s important to know the difference. Being anything less doesn’t get you anywhere other than someone’s bad side. ( The Southern Advantage gives an excellent example of true southern politeness: If Donald Trump was from the South, he’d say “you’re fired, but bless your heart, you’ve tried.”)
13. Offer your coat. Especially if you’re just getting to know a woman. You can offer your arm, but only after you’ve reached a truly comfortable level. This is not the time to make any moves, so don’t even think about it.
14. Pick her up. But don’t ever be too insistent, as it may come off desperate. If she wants to meet you at the restaurant on the first date, let her. She’s only ensuring her safety and should be allowed to do so. However, never fail to offer.
15. Allow her to order first. Take care of her needs first, or at least offer.
16. Dress the part. When in public, always be presentable (yes, this means you should know how to tie a tie). Women love to follow the old saying, “Look your best, but more importantly, hang your arm on someone who looks his best too.” So make it easy for her. After all, every woman loves well dressed gents.
17. Learn how to speak when with a lady. Although she may like to get down and dirty, she’s not “one of the guys,” so watch the language and treat her with respect.
18. Flirt. This may sound odd, but southern gentleman are avidly flirtatious. However this is not to encourage any vulgar or sexual comments. But let’s face it – southern gentleman flirt with most women they come across – whether the old lady down the street, the waitress at the diner, or his girlfriend/wife. They simply know how to make women feel good and enjoy doing it.
19. Remember chivalry. Contrary to popular belief, it truly does exist. Give up your seat for a woman (not just the elderly), stand when a woman enters the room, always walk on the outside of the street, always pull out her chair, and bring her flowers.
20. Always defend a lady’s honor. Never allow a man at the bar to speak to her in an inappropriate manner, and offer to walk her to her car. Remember, a woman will always admire a man who can protect her.
21. Be a man of your word. As eHow so graciously puts it, “a Southern gentleman is a man of his word. He is faithful to his wife, faithful to his church (if he is religiously inclined), unfailingly honest, and lives by a code of nobility. He is a genuine man in a world full of posers.”
Thank you eHow, I couldn’t have said it better myself. So gentlemen, do me a favor and restore the chivalry which was once so prominent across the southlands.
By studying the previously listed ways of becoming a southern gentleman, acquiring the essential attire, and complimenting like crazy, you’ll be well on your way to becoming the next southern stud. But I must warn you- southern women have a sense of mystery that can make any pursuit challenging. Although well spoken and mild-mannered, their intellect and sassiness can leave you wondering. Luckily, today’s social media has the ability to alleviate some of your worrying woes as personal statuses plaster the Internet. Filled with daily activities, heartbreak stories, and personal insight, you may be able to decode her true emotions from a quick glance of her online status.
(Southern Charm 4/27/10 Blog)
xoxo,
Faith
9.09.2013
It's All Good...
Somewhere between last night and today I learned that we have been saying it all wrong - it shouldn't be "You take the good with the bad" it should be "You take the good with the even better."
I love my alone time on my drives home from the beach. As sad as I am to leave the ocean I always find comfort in just thinking, praying and like Kenny says...'the road and the radio'.
I think it is safe to say that the last year of my life has felt like the worlds fastest, scariest, highest, lowest and craziest roller coaster ever. During some of these times it seems like everything is taking a turn for the worst possible outcome but I always realize; whether it takes a minute, day, week, hour or year - everything that happens has taught me many lessons and makes me even better and more secure in handling the roller coaster rides ahead!
On my drive home last night I was listening to Kacey Musgraves (check her out-her songs are awesome!) and in an interview she said something along the lines of,
"An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backwards. When you feel like life is dragging you back with difficulties just know that you are being launched into something great."
She hit the bulls eye on that one huh? These words rang so much truth to me that I listened to the podcast again on my lunch hour today...and again it was just the reassurance I needed!
Tonight as I write this, I am thankful for my weak moments because they are making me stronger, I am thankful for the road and the radio and I am definitely thankful that I am understanding how to take the good with the even better!
xoxo,
Faith
I love my alone time on my drives home from the beach. As sad as I am to leave the ocean I always find comfort in just thinking, praying and like Kenny says...'the road and the radio'.
I think it is safe to say that the last year of my life has felt like the worlds fastest, scariest, highest, lowest and craziest roller coaster ever. During some of these times it seems like everything is taking a turn for the worst possible outcome but I always realize; whether it takes a minute, day, week, hour or year - everything that happens has taught me many lessons and makes me even better and more secure in handling the roller coaster rides ahead!
On my drive home last night I was listening to Kacey Musgraves (check her out-her songs are awesome!) and in an interview she said something along the lines of,
"An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backwards. When you feel like life is dragging you back with difficulties just know that you are being launched into something great."
She hit the bulls eye on that one huh? These words rang so much truth to me that I listened to the podcast again on my lunch hour today...and again it was just the reassurance I needed!
Tonight as I write this, I am thankful for my weak moments because they are making me stronger, I am thankful for the road and the radio and I am definitely thankful that I am understanding how to take the good with the even better!
xoxo,
Faith
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