I have a family member who has just been through a divorce and has now joined the rest of the "single world" in dating...bless her! She recently met the "man of her dreams" only to soon find out quite the contrary!
She sent me a message on Facebook and of course I responded -
Mandy: "miss ya! my fairy tale ended. oh well, just another chapter for the book. love ya!"
Faith: "all real fairy tales never end....they just get sweeter and sweeter--that was just more of a preview for the REAL fairy tale to come one day! Also remember what makes fairy tales so great is that they didn’t happen overnight...there's always a disheartening series of events that lead up to the happily ever after! xoxo"
Mandy: "and please remind me that these disheartening series of events do not need to include boys from Aynor (I mean really are all people from Aynor psycho)"
Faith: "well, I have a few friends from there who are good people....but just like in a fairy tale...you have to kiss a few frogs before the prince finds you...so they arent psycho just frogs...next time you hear even the slightest "ribbit" (it's a noise you will hear coming from your gut) just put that frog back on his lily pad and walk away! :)"
This chatting back and forth got me thinking about growing up and watching these ordinary girls flourish into this amazing princess as soon as their prince found them and then it hit me...what I just said..."their prince found them"!!! That’s it - we have to let him find us ladies - don't go out on the prowl...let him be the one who approaches and makes all of the effort. Be like these princesses in the fairy tales-they meet a man they can’t get off of their minds who maybe gave them butterflies but they go about their normal daily routines, not out looking for him or making things happen! I often see my girlfriends (and of course myself included sometimes) dropping everything at the drop of the hat waiting on a guy to call-I can understand anticipating a phone call, however what I do not understand is why us girls will anticipate a phone call for just ANY guy...yeah we know he isn’t what we want or need but he fills a void called loneliness so we jump all over it - DONT DO THAT.....do not settle-those little things that you think you will get over only grow into big things and you will end up with that void called loneliness again even if he is right beside you!
In fairy tales, the Prince Charming always seems to find the lady...So ladies-quit looking for him, just be patient and along the way – open your windows and let your hair down, look out for the few bad apples,lose a few glass slippers, read as many tales as old as time, be sure to get some beauty sleep, play with your 7 favorite friends and you will find that one day your prince will come and be…a part of your world!
xoxo
Faith
Background
6.30.2010
6.24.2010
30 Simplicities
1.Give people more than they expect, and do it cheerfully.
2.Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
3.When you say, "I love you" mean it.
4.When you say, "I'm sorry" look the person in the eye.
5.Never laugh at any one's dreams.
6.Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
7.In disagreements, fight fairly.
8.Don't judge people by their relatives.
9.Talk slow but think quick.
10.Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
11.Call your mom.
12.When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
13.Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
14.When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
15.Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
16.Marry a man you love to talk to. As you get older, his conversational skills will be as important as any other.
17.Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
18.Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
19.Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you get to enjoy it a second time.
20.Trust in God but lock your car.
21.Read between the lines.
22.Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
23.Pray — there's immeasurable power in it.
24.Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
25.Once a Year, go someplace you've never been before.
26.If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth's greatest satisfaction.
27.Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
28.Learn the rules then break some.
29.Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
30.Remember that your character is your destiny.
2.Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
3.When you say, "I love you" mean it.
4.When you say, "I'm sorry" look the person in the eye.
5.Never laugh at any one's dreams.
6.Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
7.In disagreements, fight fairly.
8.Don't judge people by their relatives.
9.Talk slow but think quick.
10.Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
11.Call your mom.
12.When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
13.Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
14.When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
15.Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
16.Marry a man you love to talk to. As you get older, his conversational skills will be as important as any other.
17.Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
18.Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
19.Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you get to enjoy it a second time.
20.Trust in God but lock your car.
21.Read between the lines.
22.Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
23.Pray — there's immeasurable power in it.
24.Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
25.Once a Year, go someplace you've never been before.
26.If you make a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth's greatest satisfaction.
27.Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
28.Learn the rules then break some.
29.Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
30.Remember that your character is your destiny.
6.22.2010
Eat that slice of cake.
"Cakes have gotten a bad rap. People equate virtue with turning down dessert. There is always one person at the table who holds up her hand when I serve the cake. No, really, I couldn’t she says, and then gives her flat stomach a conspiratorial little pat. Everyone who is pressing a fork into that first tender layer looks at the person who declined the plate, and they all think, That person is better than I am. That person has discipline. But that isn’t a person with discipline; that is a person who has completely lost touch with joy. A slice of cake never made anybody fat. You don’t eat the whole cake. You don’t eat a cake every day of your life. You take the cake when it is offered because the cake is delicious. You have a slice of cake and what it reminds you of is someplace that’s safe, uncomplicated, without stress. A cake is a party, a birthday, a wedding. A cake is what’s served on the happiest days of your life."6.21.2010
6.16.2010
Boating and Business
Great analogy/lesson in Kate Lewis' "Civilized Minute" yesterday....Thought I would share! She relates it to the work environment but actually it can be related to everyday life...don't do anything ending in "ish"!! :)
Enjoy!
~Faith
boating and business
June 14, 2010 by katetlewis
I had a boating lesson today. A long one. Well, it took a long time, I guess I should say.
There was some guy there who looked like my husband, but with all the patience floating around without a life jacket, I can’t be sure about that guy’s identity. When he spoke, though, I listened. Intently.
Here’s my secret: I get so anxious when there are several boats speeding about pulling kids behind them on tubes and wakeboards. The thought of a driver not paying attention and running over a downed skier almost makes the ride miserable. Or, worse, what if they don’t see our boat and slam into us?? My shoulders get higher, my pulse quickens…geez, I’m getting old. This kind of thing used to never bother me.
Want more evidence of my aging at the lake? When I see a boat full of young and tan guys and girls wearing ponytails and cute little suits, I think, Wonder who that is? like I might know them. Then, I feel something touch my leg as the breeze blows the skirt on my bathing suit. Oops. I probably don’t know them. Well, I wonder if they babysit?
I digress…
So, the goal of today’s lesson was for me to learn how to get the boat in and out of the boat house (without tearing the whole thing down) and to learn to dock at the marina (without tearing the whole thing down). For good measure, that guy with all the patience had me go under the bridge since it’s a tight squeeze. In case you don’t know, it’s really important to let the canopy down so you don’t rip it off. Just a little tidbit I picked up.
In case you are wondering when you will get to the images in this post, the words “etiquette coach in a bathing suit” should squelch any subsequent musings.
Moving on…
All of this was complicated by the wind. You can point left, put it in neutral and end up facing left-ish. And, according to my teacher, any position that ends in -ish won’t cut it. He was very strict on this point. You must have a plan and stick to it. You have to know where you are headed, know which way the wind is blowing and commit.
Now we are getting somewhere. That’s what I tell my clients about business. Let’s say you have just spotted your new department head at the end of the hall. You can’t start walking toward him to be introduced and answer your cell phone halfway there. That’s teenager-ish. If you are committed to advancing your career or your business, you have to be committed to doing the things that will take you to that level. You can’t speed up to a bridge, try to squeeze under it and rip off your canopy in the process. That’s short-sighted-ish. You have to know your environment and which way the wind is blowing. If a co-worker is going through a personal tragedy, offer to back him up on assignments. Be aware and make yourself relevant in the big picture.
By the end of my lesson, I was much more confident and relaxed. I learned how to be in control of the situation and it was empowering! Much like my use of business etiquette to navigate through any professional setting with ease, I used my new boating skills to get where I wanted to go comfortably. And, I’m here to tell you…If I can learn to dock a boat at a busy marina in sweltering heat while my hair sticks up, you can learn to present yourself with enough tact and charm that your own mother would swoon.
Enjoy!
~Faith
boating and business
June 14, 2010 by katetlewis
I had a boating lesson today. A long one. Well, it took a long time, I guess I should say.
There was some guy there who looked like my husband, but with all the patience floating around without a life jacket, I can’t be sure about that guy’s identity. When he spoke, though, I listened. Intently.
Here’s my secret: I get so anxious when there are several boats speeding about pulling kids behind them on tubes and wakeboards. The thought of a driver not paying attention and running over a downed skier almost makes the ride miserable. Or, worse, what if they don’t see our boat and slam into us?? My shoulders get higher, my pulse quickens…geez, I’m getting old. This kind of thing used to never bother me.
Want more evidence of my aging at the lake? When I see a boat full of young and tan guys and girls wearing ponytails and cute little suits, I think, Wonder who that is? like I might know them. Then, I feel something touch my leg as the breeze blows the skirt on my bathing suit. Oops. I probably don’t know them. Well, I wonder if they babysit?
I digress…
So, the goal of today’s lesson was for me to learn how to get the boat in and out of the boat house (without tearing the whole thing down) and to learn to dock at the marina (without tearing the whole thing down). For good measure, that guy with all the patience had me go under the bridge since it’s a tight squeeze. In case you don’t know, it’s really important to let the canopy down so you don’t rip it off. Just a little tidbit I picked up.
In case you are wondering when you will get to the images in this post, the words “etiquette coach in a bathing suit” should squelch any subsequent musings.
Moving on…
All of this was complicated by the wind. You can point left, put it in neutral and end up facing left-ish. And, according to my teacher, any position that ends in -ish won’t cut it. He was very strict on this point. You must have a plan and stick to it. You have to know where you are headed, know which way the wind is blowing and commit.
Now we are getting somewhere. That’s what I tell my clients about business. Let’s say you have just spotted your new department head at the end of the hall. You can’t start walking toward him to be introduced and answer your cell phone halfway there. That’s teenager-ish. If you are committed to advancing your career or your business, you have to be committed to doing the things that will take you to that level. You can’t speed up to a bridge, try to squeeze under it and rip off your canopy in the process. That’s short-sighted-ish. You have to know your environment and which way the wind is blowing. If a co-worker is going through a personal tragedy, offer to back him up on assignments. Be aware and make yourself relevant in the big picture.
By the end of my lesson, I was much more confident and relaxed. I learned how to be in control of the situation and it was empowering! Much like my use of business etiquette to navigate through any professional setting with ease, I used my new boating skills to get where I wanted to go comfortably. And, I’m here to tell you…If I can learn to dock a boat at a busy marina in sweltering heat while my hair sticks up, you can learn to present yourself with enough tact and charm that your own mother would swoon.
6.08.2010
Ponder this....
Would you rather be right, or happy?
This is something that I see us all struggle with in life from time to time! Basically, it comes down to pride. If you are doing something that you are not happy in whether it be a relationship, job, or anything else that you are continuing to do to "prove others wrong" yet YOU are not happy....then stop. Do not let someone telling you that you cannot do something be what makes you do it, make sure it is what you want. I am not one for quitting but I am a firm believer in being Happy, so if there is something in your life that you have realized just cannot work, hold your head high and know that you gave it your all!!!
"In general, pride is at the bottom of all great mistakes."- John Ruskin
This is something that I see us all struggle with in life from time to time! Basically, it comes down to pride. If you are doing something that you are not happy in whether it be a relationship, job, or anything else that you are continuing to do to "prove others wrong" yet YOU are not happy....then stop. Do not let someone telling you that you cannot do something be what makes you do it, make sure it is what you want. I am not one for quitting but I am a firm believer in being Happy, so if there is something in your life that you have realized just cannot work, hold your head high and know that you gave it your all!!!
"In general, pride is at the bottom of all great mistakes."- John Ruskin
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