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12.28.2010

Nothing to LOL about...

Wow....This is a ten minute video, but def worth watching - please watch it at some point. It is not one of the graphic videos that try to scare you into not texting and driving but instead shows how a simple 3 letter text such as "LOL" that takes less than 5 seconds can be life changing and in some cases life ending. I am guilty of texting while driving but after watching this and better understanding the reality I hope we can all see that NOTHING is so important it can't wait until the car is in park!



Be careful y'all!
xoxo,
Faith

Daily Dose 1,2, skip a few....

Here we go again...time to play catch up on the Reverbs! I am going to something a little different though - a lot of them seem very repetitive - the same topic, just written a different way, or maybe my year was just not very eventful and they same few events keep coming to mind when reading these...anyway, with that being the case, I am going to just go through and respond to the ones that I like the most and save you from reading a similar response that I may have had on a different day! :)

December 20 – Beyond Avoidance. What should you have done this year but didn’t because you were too scared, worried, unsure, busy or otherwise deterred from doing? (Bonus: Will you do it?)
Saving money. I promised myself I was going to be better about saving, instead I did the complete opposite! If every TJ Maxx in the world would shut down, I would be way better at this mission. As far as if I will do it in the next year - I will definitely give it a much better shot than in the past! :)

December 23 – New Name Let’s meet again, for the first time. If you could introduce yourself to strangers by another name for just one day, what would it be and why?

Honestly, I would keep my name...Christian Faith. It is not as common now since Faith Evans  Faith Hill and the show Hope and Faith stepped onto the scene but it is still a name that is more unique than most and actually has a meaning behind it so Thanks mom and dad! :)

December 24 Prompt – Everything’s OK What was the best moment that could serve as proof that everything is going to be alright? And how will you incorporate that discovery into the year ahead?
Proof - It is December 28...3 days away from 2011 and I am still here--nothing took me out, that is all the proof I need!

December 26 – Soul Food What did you eat this year that you will never forget? What went into your mouth & touched your soul?
I would not say it really touched my soul but I tried Sushi for the first time this summer. I am not a picky eater but something about Sushi has just never been that appealing to me. In my opinion, it almost seems as if it became a trend in the past year or so that you had to eat Sushi to fit in - not why I tried it, but I did and it was good. Nothing that I would sit around dreaming about, but I have had a craving for it at least twice since trying it!

That is actually all of the ones I really cared enough to write about! This Reverb idea was not as fascinating or enlightening as I hoped it would be!
To gove you an idea -These are a few of the ones I skipped:
December 18 – Try. What do you want to try next year? Is there something you wanted to try in 2010? What happened when you did / didn’t go for it?

December 17 – Lesson Learned. What was the best thing you learned about yourself this past year? And how will you apply that lesson going forward?
December 15 – 5 Minutes. Imagine you will completely lose your memory of 2010 in five minutes. Set an alarm for five minutes and capture the things you most wan to remember about 2010.
As you can see they have been answered for the most part throughout my previous post - the others I skipped were pretty much the same - nothing to exciting! Oh well....there are still three days left - maybe they will be more interesting!
xoxo,
Faith

12.14.2010

Daily Dose 4-14 (All Caught up!!!)

Okay sooooooo since I am way behind on my daily "Reverbs" I am going to list each one and answer it in as few words as possible and if I cannot answer it I will just skip it! Sorry I have been MIA- we went to ATL for the USC SEC Championship game (which we lost BAD but it was still and Awesome trip), and then I had Final Exams and MY BIRTHDAY stuff....so I have been a busy girl....ok done making excuses, here we go.........

December 4 – Wonder. How did you cultivate a sense of wonder in your life this year?
Hmmmm....I have not had a super eventful year full of traveling or seeing many sights or things like that but I have been trying to more aware of my surroundings...like the things I see everyday just paying more attention. This year my sense of wonder came from noticing the small things.

December 5 – Let Go. What (or whom) did you let go of this year? Why?
This year I let go of myself. From reading past entries you will know this has been a year that I have felt defeated more than a conqueror and have allowed myself to act like my own worst enemy. Why? I guess more than anything just the pressure of "having it all together" finally got to me and I realized I didn't no matter how big of a smile I put on my face, I just didn't. Thankfully, I am getting back what I let go of and in 2011 I will be the Conqueror! :)

December 6 – Make. What was the last thing you made? What materials did you use? Is there something you want to make, but you need to clear some time for it?
Notes for my roommates and friends. Paper and Crayola Markers....I try to leave them around the house every now and then for them to find--nothing makes a person smile like knowing someone took a second to let them know they were thought of and nothing make makes me smile like being able to have people to leave notes for! As far as wanting to make something...nothing I can really think of-I am not the most creative person in the world so I usually am just one to purchase things already made!

December 7 – Community. Where have you discovered community, online or otherwise, in 2010? What community would you like to join, create or more deeply connect with in 2011?
This year a house burned down that belonged to a friend of mine and her husband’s. It was not their house but one that they rented out. Anyway, I posted on Facebook that that this had happened and the child involved was upset because her new pink book bag and school supplies were gone and within minutes I had a number of responses.....some people I did not barely even know arranged to drop items off at my house to give to the family in need. Needless to say, the little girl ended up with a brand new book bag and plenty of school supplies! Her mother and grandmother got quite a few items too!
In 2011 I would LOVE to find a new church community - I was involved in my old church but it was time for a change of scenery and I have still not found a place where I want to stay so that is definitely something that will be changing in 2011!

December 8 – Beautifully Different. Think about what makes you different and what you do that lights people up. Reflect on all the things that make you different – you’ll find they’re what make you beautiful.
It is so difficult for me to talk about myself in this manner....but I did realize something just yesterday on my birthday...almost every single text, call, email, or card I received for my birthday of course said "Happy Birthday" but it also said, "Thanks for always doing so much and for always being there". It was almost as if my birthday cards could double as a "Secretary’s day" card haha!
I have never really thought that I went out of my way for anyone, and I still don't. I just think that is what friends do and assume those people would do the same for me!

December 9 – Party Prompt: Party. What social gathering rocked your socks off in 2010? Describe the people, music, food, drink, clothes, shenanigans.
New Years Eve - 2010 --Went to a cocktail party that benefitted the Boys and Girls Club of York County and it was a FANTASTIC time! Great company, ages varied, heavy horse d vours, the bubbly was flowing and super cute cocktail attire and I even wore some red high heels! Those heels however were not fun once we found out it was a two hour wait on a cab ride so some friends and I decided to take the walk home that was a little over a mile - talk about shenanigans -we documented with pictures along the way! Without fail every time since then that I go over that bridge we walked over I think about that night!

December 10 – Wisdom Wisdom. What was the wisest decision you made this year, and how did it play out?
Wow! As awesome as he is knowing when to walk away from my ex. Never will say a bad thing about him. Not only me walking away, but him as well was the wisest decision ever on both of our parts. Otherwise we would be married or almost married at this point and not as happy as we could be. The decision has played out well - He is now married his life seems on track from what I hear and I have taken the past year to reflect on mine and his almost 6 years and decide what I want next and figuring out what changes I need to make to get it - guess you could say I did a lot of soul searching and finally feel like I am finding my way!
I have no doubt we would have been happy, definitely not miserable but definitely not living to our fullest potential. I don't want to be another statistic - not in that area anyway!

December 11 – 11 Things What are 11 things your life doesn’t need in 2011? How will you go about eliminating them? How will getting rid of these 11 things change your life?
#11) Drama - I know in life we will always be faced with some type of drama but I guess just not letting myself get caught up in it or letting other peoples stuff give me #10)Worry. I worry about worrying. This HAS to get better in 2011 before I drive myself crazy along with everyone around me-big or small I worry about it, everything is not going to always be #9)Perfect. Perfection, I need to lose some of my need for perfection. I need to gain it in some areas such as school, work, my car and bedroom being clean but definitely need to lose it in areas like making sure everyone around me has their lunch packed, shoes tied and all alphabetical order as some would say I am a bit #8) OCD haha I have not been diagnosed but I don't think it would take much being around me to agree that this could be true!
#7) Holding on to hurt....I need to learn to let go easier in 2011. Not necessarily of people but of memories...just the bad ones of course. Once you hurt my feelings, I cannot forget. I am still nice and smile and pretend all is well but more than likely at least once a day something reminds me of that hurtful feeling you once gave me and I cannot #6)Forget. Forgetfulness has GOT TO GO! haha opposite of what I just said huh? well, let me explain....I can tell you what I did 5 years ago but have no recollection of what we talked about 5 minutes ago. In all honesty this is getting kind of bad; in 2011 I have got to be less what’s the word....forgetful. ;)
#5)Gossip - this is something that I am sure is on my list every year since I am a female, however it is still there and something I will do less of in 2011. I say do less of and not stop because I know myself and I know I am human! I really don't gossip a lot so don’t feel as if you tell me something I cannot be trusted but I can. I just seem to have that one, sometimes two people I tell everything to and feel like it is ok because it is not really that important but in reality just because it is not AS important to me does not mean it is not important sooooo mums the word as much as possible from me in 2011! #4)Facebook. SOOO much time spent on facebook - I have to stop letting it consume so much time! Imagine all of the things I could have done this year had I not been worried about how many "likes" my status got!
#3)Death - I had enough in 2010 between my grandfather and uncle....of course this is out of my control and in God's but God if you are reading, can I have a few years off from this horrible heartache of losing loved ones?!#2)Regret. I don't have much, I really don't, but anytime I feel that sting of regret I hope I can remember that everything happens for a reason and is falling into place as it should. Even if something dumb I did now seems pointless and actually never makes any sense to me it was all done in order to lead me where I am! #1) Soft Drinks. I NEED NO SOFT DRINKS...........I NEED to learn to love water and forget about Mt. Dew and Pepsi!
How will you go about eliminating them? Patience, Tolerance and Self Control!
How will getting rid of these 11 things change your life? Well apparently they are all things that I feel impact me negatively so eliminating these things can only make me happier!

December 12 – Body Integration This year, when did you feel the most integrated with your body? Did you have a moment where there wasn’t mind and body, but simply a cohesive YOU, alive and present?
This can be answered in Day 3 I feel like. Blog Entry "Daily Dose 3" I may be not understanding this question?

December 13 – Action. When it comes to aspirations, it’s not about ideas. It’s about making ideas happen. What’s your next step?
My next step is trying not to figure it out myself but realizing what God has for my next step!

December 14 – Appreciate what’s the one thing you have come to appreciate most in the past year? How do you express gratitude for it?
Honesty. Back this summer when I was told "You are human after all...." (Click here for the blog entry explaining) that was a moment that needed to transpire in my life to help me get back on track. Not saying that I am Superwoman but it is nice to know that people sometimes look at me that way!
I express gratitude by hopefully making positive changes that are hopefully evident to those around me!

Yay! I am all caught up...and just think I thought I would not be able to answer them all....who was I kidding - we all know how much I can talk! :) Anyway, I have to run, going to meet a few friends for more birthday fun and don't want to be late. Wow!!! How did I forget tardiness on my list of 11 things?! Friends, I promise I REALLY am working on being late EVERYWHERE - I promise!! :)

xoxo,
Faith

12.03.2010

December Dose 3

Dec. 3
Moment. Pick one moment during which you felt most alive this year.

I cannot believe it took me taking more than a second to actually reflect on this one!
For anyone who knows me well, you know that God chose me to be the lucky young lady whose parents get divorced...no big deal it seems these days-seems to be the trend. However, I was chosen to endure the divorce from hell. My parents got divorced around 13 years ago and they still seem to find reasons to argue and go to court. I am not getting into any details or blaming anyone, in the grand scheme I guess we are all to blame for letting Satan control our actions rather Trusting that God will handle it. Afterall, He is the Supreme Judge, not some man on earth in a black robe! Ok so, now that you kind of know where I am coming from, you can kind of understand why this moment I am going to reflect on was the one moment this year that I felt the most alive!

Dealing with two parents who do not speak-you can imagine how difficult that can make things...this is simply the reason I have banned ever having a wedding-I will def have a destination wedding with just me and the lucky man, I have only had them together at one birthday party since I was 16 (and that was just long enough for my daddy to give me his present- a trip to NYC-awesome gift!), I don't have a picture of just us three from my high school graduation, I am still trying to figure out how to handle the day I have a child and then what about the child's birthday parties....and so on....probably all of the things I would have taken for granted had my parents stayed married or even stayed friends after the divorce.All of that to again help you understand why this is the moment for me or actually the entire day of feeling alive.

May 29, 2010. Me,my little sister, my mama, her husband Mark, my daddy, and his wife Cindy....all sat down in the same building, on the same row, only inches apart from one another and watched my little brother walk across the stage at his high school graduation!! Sounds silly to some I am sure but if you knew our history you would have chills and tears as I do now! I did see some Valium being popped but whatever it takes it was worth it!!

But wait....it gets better! After graduation we all (except for Mark - this was all too much for him so he left - his loss-I saw God this day - I hate he missed it!) met up outside to hug brother and take pictures--this is my favorite part, even though it doesn't directly effect me but just knowing that at least one of us three kids actually got to experience this makes me smile--my mama, daddy, and little brother took a picture together! Wow! I was just as envious as I was happy! I will never forget that moment for as long as I live, even though it only lasted as long as it takes the shutter on the camera to click it will last in my heart forever!

Believe it or not there is actually one more part! This is why I said more of an entire day rather than just a moment...after we took the pictures we all went and had lunch together! Of course it was a little weird but everyone was cordial and we had many laughs...I waited for daddy to foot the entire bill but thank God he didn't or I would not have been here to write about this moment because I would have died from a heart attack at the moment he or mama offered to pay for one another haha!
So that is it! The entire day was amazing but the moment of the picture is the moment that I felt the most alive this year.

Unfortunately, the very next day, a new situation arises and our parents are back to as much dissension as ever but at least we had these few hours on May 29, 2010 that now mean so much to me and otherwise probably would not have had I not had to miss out on them in my life to truly understood what these moments really are all about-never take anything for granted--not even the "small" things!!

Pictures never change,
 Even when the people in them do.





















xoxo,
Faith

12.02.2010

December Dose 1 & 2

I am so excited! My friend Katie (Check blog out here!) sent me this great idea that she thought I would enjoy using in my post for the next few weeks and she was correct! The idea behind these posts are to spend the next month reflecting on the past year, and manifesting what is next. So this is how it works...each day Reverb 10 will give a daily prompt, I will then respond to the prompt and then hopefully you will read it!
I will do Dec 1 and Dec 2 today in order to keep on track for the rest of the month.
Soooooooooooo.....here it goes................

Dec. 1, 2010
Encapsulate the year 2010 in one word. Explain why you’re choosing that word. Now, imagine it’s one year from today, what would you like the word to be that captures 2011 for you?

2010 in one word...Challenge

If you follow my blog I would think you could agree with me here that this is a word that seems to suit 2010 in my life! For beginners we can start with this blog....Thoughts Uncorked all came about from a challenge-me challenging myself to stay off of Facebook for one month in order to have more time to focus on myself instead of everyone else's business that I barely even speak to! Thoughts Uncorked became my outlet of getting out what I needed to get out!

Challenge is also my word of choice because of having to watch my grandfather and uncle take on a challenge each day of staying alive - they did both pass away this year so now I am still facing the challenge of dealing with them no longer being here.

School has been a challenge - It always is with trying to balance work, family, and social life but the Spring semester and the Fall semester have both consisted of Stats classes...I made it through the first with a B and will be completing the next one and last one in a few weeks, hopefully with a passing grade as well!

The old love life has had a few ups and downs as well this year! Since my break up last year I have not really been in a zone to want to take on the challenge of a new relationship. I have dated a few people here and there but nothing that really could ever go anywhere. For a while this frustrated me to no end then I realized this was a time in life I needed to focus on me and my life 100% rather than bringing in someone else and I can honestly say I feel that I am succeeding in this challenge! I do find myself being more open to the idea of a boyfriend now more than I have been....until of course I get that sweaty palm, my throat closes up, nauseated - room is spinning feeling---then I change my mind! ;)

Those are just a few of the reasons that I choose the word challenge. Like I said, if you keep up with this blog then you have seen some of the crazy challenges I have faced and still are facing this year among family, relationships, friends, and myself...I know that 2011 will hold its challenges as well but as Caroll Burnett said, “I have always grown from my problems and challenges, from the things that don't work out, that's when I've really learned.”
I am looking forward to more growing!

Now, imagine it’s one year from today, what would you like the word to be that captures 2011 for you?
Organized.
Organized: Functioning within a formal structure, as in the coordination and direction of activities.-Webster

Is this even feasible for the idea of life? Maybe not since we cannot predict what is coming next but I can make sure whatever comes my way I have everything in place and am as organized as possible to be prepared for it!

Dec. 2
What do you do each day that doesn’t contribute to your writing — and can you eliminate it?
It’s taken me a little longer than normal to wrap my brain around this question today. Quite honestly I cannot come up with one thing in my daily life that does not contribute to my writing/blogging.

Yes, I could eliminate Facebook and Twitter but these are outlets in which I share my writings and both of these sites are actually places that give me insights and ideas on what to write about.
I don't sleep very often and when I do it seems like most of the time when I wake up that is when my mind is the freshest and I start writing so in a way even sleeping contributes. I could stay at home more often instead of being such a social butterfly or going out and spending money but once again most of my topics involve discussions I have had with those around me and spending money creates stress which we all know leads to needing to vent!

So I guess the things that do not contribute to my writing and may be considered by some to get in my way really cannot be eliminated at all because they are all a part of my writing process!
So thank you all very much "distractions"!!

xoxo,
Faith

Just what we needed....

Hola! Wow....I have been so busy playing catch up from Thanksgiving vacation I have not had a chance to sit down and write but I am back! :) I have missed this more than I probably should!
I had an absolutely AMAZING Thanksgiving week/end! Me, my mom, brother and sister went to Florida!! We went to visit my brother at his school in Daytona but decided to keep driving a few more miles and went to Orlando so we could visit Universal Studios and Disney World!! So, needless to say we did not have a very traditional Thanksgiving this year....instead we were busy going in loops on roller coasters, meeting Spiderman, Cinderella, and many others! We went to a Miami Heat/Orlando Magic basketball game and enjoyed our Thanksgiving meal which consisted of a turkey leg all of this with more smiles and laughs than I ever thought possible! :) It was so awesome how much each of enjoyed this trip we have taken numerous times before now that we are all older and understand how precious time is and are learning not to take things for granted! This week I have set back a few times and remembered certain moments from the trip and I just start laughing out loud! If you laugh when you are alone then you know some good memories were made!!
If you read my previous post you will remember me saying that this year I choose to be extra thankful for Memories when asked to name one thing I am thankful for....well, that was definitely the right choice for me and I am so thrilled that I got the chance to make so many wonderful new memories with 3 of my favorite people in the entire world!!
Of course I cannot stop without mentioning another awesome event over the last week was the USC Gamecocks beating Clemson....29-7....another great memory!! This weekend I will head to Atlanta to watch USC play in the SEC Championship for their first time---I am so busy soaking up so many new memories and I LOVE it!!

Thanksgiving Dinner 2010
xoxo,
Faith